Mentor-less

My friend Katrice at the blog My Vicarious Life lost one of her mentors.  Her most recent blog posting highlighted a warm tribute to their relationship - after reading the post I came to the conclusion that he was astounding as a mentor.  It compelled me to ask the question:

Who is my mentor?



I am ashamed to say that I have never had a mentor as an adult.  I had people that I admired and aspired to please but never someone that placed a investment in me by pushing me towards my dreams and goals without giving up.  Someone that was my own personal cheerleader that was equipped with wisdom, consistency and life skills modeling.  At the age of 37 I have made the decision that I too want a mentor. 

If I could place an ad - it would reflect the following:

MENTOR NEEDED

Willingness to share knowledge

Life role model

Values ongoing growth

Effective & Direct communication

Assist in goal setting

Provides guidance and constructive feedback

Demonstrates a positive attitude

Does anyone know someone that fits the ad?



Fear of Failure Survivor

"I'm scared to try cause I'm scared to fail"

- Fear by Jazmine Sullivan

I have lived in that condition all of my life until this year at the age of 37 years old.  I made the decision to move forward with my life by acknowledging the fact that I had failed at my marriage.  After moving out, living on my own for the first time EVER with my daughter I was pushed into reality.  Officially making public the ugliness of my failure - I learned that failing at my marriage wasn't the end of my world.  Once I wiped the tears, took a deep breath and gazed into the mirror -  I was relieved. 

I no longer had to "appear" as others wanted me to be with my family, friends or co-workers. I could literally find myself again as a human being and not a role.  The need to be perfect was exhausting. No one is perfect.  And I was far from it.

As I approach my seventh month of living on my own:

*I can say that I have a healthier relationship with food with a weight loss of thirty pounds since food became my best friend in those last four years of marraige.* 

*I can say that my prayer life has taken an upgrade from circumstantial talks to long length daily conversations with God.*

* I can say that my confidence is building more as I accomplish the task of managing my household on a fixed income where the numbers just dont add up with my expenses.*

*I can say that my ability to play it safe is no longer an option since my faith has increased and my fears are slowly decreasing.*

I am a fear of failure survivor.

What are your fears? Isn't it time to overcome them.